Monogamy - Is it normal?

I consider myself a one-on-one, type of gal. I never quite understood polygamy or polyamourous relationships, at least not from a practical stand point. I mean, sure, maybe it would be nice to be like Empress Nympho from "History of the World, Part 1" and have my pick of manliness on any given evening. And, I'm sure that there are quite a few men out there love having their pick of women any given night. I'm sure that there are many doing so right now. But once the fantasy and the pleasure of the moment is over, then what? Back to the reality of emotions, diseases and unwanted pregnancies.

But in this world where monogamy is the social standard, I keep hearing time and time again that monogamy simply isn't normal. That's why men and women cheat. They are just giving in to human nature.

That got me to thinking. If it is our human nature to have more than one partner at a time, just where did the idea of monogamy come from? Is it more of a religious thing that we have just over time have socially accepted as law?

Online social networks - you can't be in just one!!!

How many social networks do you belong to?

Movie flashback - Set It Off

Started thinking about this movie on the ride into work today. My favorite song on the soundtrack, EnVogue's "Don't Let Go". Also had one of my favorite movie love scenes (I was in love with some Blair Underwood back then).

It started the rumors about Queen Latifah's sexuality. There was such a big deal about that on-screen kiss she had with another woman. She was VERY convincing! Could have been just good acting or... I guess the world may never know. Rumors aside, no one but the Queen knows whether or not she's homo or hetero and she ain't talking.

The other thing that I remember around this time frame was the group of suburban girls that, after allegedly watching "Set It Off", decided that robbing banks could be a fun way to end their boredom. Considering they all got caught, I guess they didn't watch the end of the movie to see what NOT to do.

Anyway, here's the EnVogue video:

Kobe jumps over an Aston Martin?

That's what they want you to believe with this video. The story I read was that the story has been analyzed to death and no one seems to be to prove that it is a fake. My bet is that it is a fake. Mainly because of one missing element in the video: the driver of the Aston Martin. It may just be the quality of the video on YouTube, but when Kobe jumps over the car, there doesn't appear to be anyone driving the car. When car comes back, you can clearly see the driver wearing a very distinctive colored shirt.



I don't know why they chose to advertise these new shoes in this manner. How much you wanna bet that there will be some more hospital visits as a result of some kids thinking they can jump over moving cars with a pair of Hyperdunks?

I also came across this video on YouTube that was suppose to prove that the Kobe video could be real. Although, I think this one is a little more believable, considering the skateboard and the ramp.


So what ya'll think? Is that Kobe video real or fake?

Isn't English our OFFICIAL language?

I thought it was. It was the only language that I ever learned. But lately, I'm starting to feel like the foreigner in my own country!

Now, I realize that this nothing new to other people in other parts of the country. New York, California and Texas I'm sure have been this way for years. But it has only been in the last 10 or so years that I've noticed so many foreigners living in Maryland. And so many of them do not have a working knowledge of English. at. all. It's getting a bit frustrating.

Last night, being the geek I am, I was in the library picking a few books. It was supposed to be a quick in and out. I spent most of my time there - in line. A line that was getting longer and longer because of two Chinese speaking customers. A couple was trying to decipher their library card history. Actually, I think they butted in line, totally oblivious to the long line of people forming behind the checkout desk. No matter how many times the librarian attempted to explain the paper to them, they keep coming back with more and more questions, most of time repeating themselves. Another woman with two kids was having a difficult time understanding the rules and procedures with the late fees related with a DVD. My problem with this lady was, if she was having such a problem communicating with the librarian, why didn't she ask one of the kids to translate? Usually, the kids speak the native language. I figure maybe she was trying to get in some English practice and I applaud her for that. However, that line was getting hella long. Maybe that wasn't the best time to practice???

Now, before anyone takes offense, I realize that learning English is not easy. Not easy at all. But if you been in this country over 10 years and you still can't even put together a sentence in English, that's a bit of a problem.

Self-help for your mistress

As I was perusing the shelves at my local bookstore, I couldn't help but notice this title:

"Will He Really Leave Her for Me?"

I thought that I had misread the title. I mean, I had to have misread. A self-help book for the mistress???

I'm thinking that I could sum this book up in two words: highly unlikely! Is there really much more to say? Except maybe, DTMFA! I just don't feel that there is any hope in waiting around for a married man. And if he does leave his wife for the mistress, what kind of relationship would that be? Could there ever be any unconditional trust in that relationship? Personally, it would be a long time before I started to feel completely sure of his fidelity. If he did it to one woman, what makes me immune from him doing the same thing to me?

I guess this book has some insightful information for someone, however. It's current rating is 4 1/2 stars. Still, I can't help but feel that any information that is presented in this book is anything that a woman in this situation hasn't already heard before. But I suppose maybe she's heard before and wasn't ready to listen.

I still say just DTMFA and be done with it!!!

Any other thoughts?