It's been a minute...

...I haven't had too much to say. Working on getting me back in focus. Folks, it's been a rough year. However, I'm getting through.

This video I came across on YouTube has me looking forward to the new year. The background track is by one of my favorite downtempo/deep house producers, Jimpster. Even if you are not a big fan of either genre, I feel this piece to be so reflective, so calming. And the visuals that were placed with it in this video put me into a very optimistic place today.



"Distant Light" - Jimpster

On my 10th anniversary...

...I started wondering about traditional wedding symbols. There is always talk about the silver 25th and the gold 50th. But what about the years prior? I should be able to get something for enduring 10 years, shouldn't I? Well, the traditional wedding symbol is...



...tin and aluminum. I can't believe that there was ever a time when an anniversary gift of tin or aluminum was acceptable. Then again, maybe husbands would appreciate it if it was a 6 pack of aluminum cans filled with beer. Thankfully, my husband went with a more modern anniversary gift this year. Tradition is nice, but jewelry is better.

Extra-curricular activities at the University of Maryland

I heard on the radio this morning that the student union at the University of Maryland has voted to allow the late night showing of hardcore porn. This weekend. The charge will be $4-$5. Now, what's wrong with picture?

Personally, I do not have a problem with porn. I've watched a few in my day. I've picked up a few tricks which has made my husband very grateful. So the way I see it, if you want to watch it, watch it. That is a person's right. However, I'm not so sure about an university allowing a public showing. One caller to the radio show was an university employee. Her point was if she were to watch porn on her work computer, she would be terminated. Also, most colleges block access to porn-related websites in computer labs. If they are willing to allow campus showings of porn movies, isn't blocking porn websites sort of a contradiction? Shouldn't the porn be available everywhere on campus?

The reason the committee gives for approving the "XXX blockbuster"? It would deter late-night drinking and other dangerous activities? What? Does that even make sense? I think not. If they want to drink, they will drink. If they want to indulge in dangerous activity, they will indulge. I don't think gratuitous T&A will deter much of anything, if at all. This rational is very weak, at best.

It will be interesting to see how this all plays out. Read the story here.

UPDATE: The officials at the University of Maryland were pressured to cancel the showing.

I'm all for experimenting in the bedroom, but...

...there are some things that just shouldn't be done. I'm not quite sure what this couple was thinking. I guess a regular vibrator just couldn't quite do it for them. I'll stick with the vibrator, thank you very much.

Here is the link

A very good hair day!!!

I would have never thought that one's hair style could stop a speeding bullet! This woman was very fortunate.

The MacGyver way to pop popcorn

This has got to be a hoax, but it does get one a little worried about cell dangers in general. You know what, strike that. By far, the most dangerous part of cell phone use are the idiots that can't drive and use one at the same time!!!




Gotta love the parody:

The first month of the year, gone already...

...and I didn't post one damn thing!!! Hmmm, I suppose I had other things to do then post to a blog. Or perhaps, I just didn't have anything to write about. A bit of both, more of the latter.

I spent most of January going out a bit more, meeting new people, just trying to have as much fun as possible. I hope to continue that trend for the rest of year. I need more small getaways, especially. My husband and I are planning a few. But I also want to find more girlfriend traveling buddies.

My time drainer last month was the Facebook "25 Things About Me" madness (here's one writer's view on it). I don't usually give in to such madness, however, for some reason, I felt the intense need to bare my soul and make 25 of my Facebook friends stand witness. It was fun, slightly narcissist, sometimes interesting and a bit revealing. One of my revealing facts was my inability to make and maintain friendships with other women. I think that was the first time that put that in writing and looked at it. Then I started to really wonder, "why?".

I blame my problem partially on some unfortunate episodes in high school. But I also had a thought that maybe female friendships have a level of complexity that I am unable to fully assimilate. Strange, considering that I am a female. What am I missing? Well, I'm not the typical "girlie" girl. And I hate the occasional female friendship fakery. They're friends to your face, then talk some serious mess behind your back. What's the point? I'm too old for that. So, I guess my problem is that I tend not to get close to other women because I'm always wondering are they being fake towards me, as if they are doing ME a favor by allowing me to be in their presence or are they filled with nothing but drama.

But, honestly, I think I tend to over think the situation entirely too much. My occasional self-deprecation doesn't help all that much. I have talked myself out of invites because I just, in some way, I decided that I didn't have much to offer or that I would feel uncomfortable. It seems so silly because when I have forced myself to go, I usually have such a good time.

So, goal for this year? Overall, I just plan to be more open to enjoy what comes.